Saturday, 16 February 2013

What IS it with some people?

So, some of you may know that i took part in the One Billion Rising event in Second Life.

I basically built that big stage folks danced on, spending a week basically living in those 4 regions, everything else, my admin duties in New Babbage, the stuff i do in the Dr Who community...was put on hold.  The event had over a hundred volunteers, from DJ's, to staff, from exhibitors setting up art to greeters, the list went on.

We all volunteered our time and effort into bringing an event into Second Life which would raise awareness into one subject.  The statistic of ONE BILLION women and female children who are physically abused around the world.

It is a staggering statistic, one seventh of the current world population of just over 7 billion.  One seventh of the entire population of the world.

The event didnt ask for money, we had no donation kiosks, all we asked is for folks to come over and simply spend a little time...and a lot of folks did...a LOT of folks.

However...there is always the detractors.

Hamlet The Has-Been, never missing a chance to look at the tiny could inside the big silver lining made a blog post about the "controversy" surrounding OBR and linked to two posts by two bloggers whom i never heard of...

According to the above, everyone involved in organizing OBF has wasted their time with a meaningless event in SL because we didn't lobby in the real world.  We are also elitist, we are pedantic middle class people... the list goes on, its a fun and interesting read from two separate bloggers who seem to think its ok for them to cast their eyes on an event and shake their heads in disapproval.

Both of these bloggers then make it a point in their two separate blog posts to post a little about the hardships they have faced in real life...i will do the same for them...

I am 37 years old, a cancer survivor, near housebound due to the effects that cancer had on my spine.  I also suffer from Fuchs Dystrophy which renders me near blind every two years.  At the end of that two year cycle i need to go to hospital and literally have both my eyes...peeled...for want of a better word to get back 80% of my vision.  I rarely go outside... rarely.  Next month i have to have all my teeth removed, bottom and upper set due to the dentist and doctor both informing me that if i don't then further complications of a genetic quirk in my family will arise.  I spend most of my days in pain, which i fully admit is very manageable with copious amounts of Tramadol which is a non addictive morphine derivative.

Now, the general theme of these two bloggers is that i wasted my time.  I didn't go out there in the real world and go to my MP's, i didn't go out there and do face to face consultations with groups of people to organize a real world political lobby.  I wasted my time because i spent all my time in SL to volunteer for this.  Even though im housebound, disabled and basically not very weel, these two bloggers seem to think they can cast aspersions on me and my life and shake their head disapprovingly at me.

To me and to everyone who attended the event we al feel it was a big success, it brought awareness to a staggering statistic which very few people WITHIN SECOND LIFE knew about.  I capitalized the "within second life" part for a reason.  That is why OBR was done here, in Second Life, that was the entire point of doing here, in Second Life, to raise awareness.

I feel sorry for the two bloggers above, who are not only unable to see the bigger picture, but are more than willing to cast aspersions on the multitude of disabled people, like me, who took part in the event simply because they are inable to take part in any form of real world events.

I wonder if the two bloggers above will also deem my being in the Relay For Life of Second Life 2013 Comittee as being "meaningless" simply because i cant go outside and take part in "real life" events?

Makes you wonder doesn't it?


I'm adding a small point here for the followers of Whiskey and Chesnuts blog who will no doubt end up here.

I am a nobody in Second Life, i have this blog which gets a handfull of visitors a day, I am an average DJ with a very small following, i don't own any sims, don't run any fashion blogs, don't run any SL TV shows.  The only claim to fame I have is having two of my builds in the destination guide.  Yet Whiskey and Chesnut are apparently very well known in SL.  BOTH of them have a large amount of followers and fans, yet BOTH of them feel the need to go on the attack for the likes of me, the little guy?

Who is the elitists that Winter and Chesnut was both referring to?

It seems to me that both of them are USING their OWN high status to force a message across, little realizing they are trampling all over the "little guy" which both of them proclaim to be.


  1. For what it's worth, I posted a couple of replies to Chestnut's blog but I doubt anyone's listening over there.

  2. To me the options are:
    1. Do something.
    2. Do nothing at all (thus spreading no awareness, being apathetic, oblivious to the suffering of others, etc.)

    You all did something, and, in my opinion, it mattered. You raised your voices and spread the word about a terrible problem. You channeled your creativity in the very best way that you could. Maybe it wasn't in the way that some of your critics would've liked, but you know, they have to walk their own paths. You can only walk your own.

    I say that you did absolutely as much as you possibly could in the way that you could, and thank you for caring, thank you for giving your time and energy. It was not a waste. I just don't get why some don't see it as a first step. I mean, it's not an either/or thing -- isn't it okay to communicate about it in both virtual space and real life? Does it have to be one or the other? Why can't the virtual world be a place for a meeting that might otherwise be very challenging to arrange between kindred spirits on different continents, who believe in this cause?

    You know, if they want something different, then it's great if they channel their energies toward realizing that, but it seems to me that they alienate potential allies by saying "your contribution isn't valid, when, in fact, you are trying to help. You are not standing by doing nothing.

    How much different might the conversation have been had they instead said, "I'd like to help by offering to coordinate some activities in the real world on behalf of One Billion Rising, so that we can take the energy of our unity in SL and continue it beyond this day." Would that not have been a more positive direction?

    As far as I am concerned, y'all should keep up the good work, and I appreciate you, Saffia, and everyone involved for continuing to contribute your time and creativity to SL.

    I wanted to attend, but it conflicted with my work schedule.

    In this world, you can build things, or you can tear them down. You can build people up, or tear them down. I applaud you for choosing to build.

  3. Hmm, you are taking the opinions of other people, and how they think about an event, and internalizing it. No one put you down, or your actions. The blog posts, the comments, are all coming from people's personal experiences.

    Why should those who have differing opinions not be able to voice them? Whiskey and Chesnut wrote how *they* felt. You're free to do as you like, as are they.

    It's awesome that you spent time building in SL for a cause that you support. But, it's also fine if others choose to voice their thoughts about that same cause.

    (Btw, you're writing is good. Which is how Whiskey and Chesnut get followers. Write more often, if you have time)

  4. The OBR stages and complex in SL were just amazing. Congratulations again on your wonderful work and your contributions, which are much appreciated.